Hitachi wasn’t thrilled about being directly associated with an iconic sex toy so, as of 2013, it’s now (officially) the Original Magic Wand.
Its been a month since I last wrote about sex, and considerably longer since I’ve reviewed anything. I figured I’d kill two birds with one stone by discussing how my sexual response has changed almost a year after surgery and by reviewing one of the most well known sex toys around: The
Hitcachi Original Magic Wand. This is a sex toy with a 46 year old lineage, a 5000 word Wikipedia article with almost 80 references, a guest appearance on Louie, and a humorous Twitter account. Not surprisingly, the Magic Wand has garnered lots of reviews over the years. A Google search for magic wand review brings up almost four million results ranging from Amazon customers to Autostraddle. There’s even a pair of great write ups by Zinnia Jones on using the Magic Wand as a trans woman. The first is an in-depth review of and guide to using Magic Wand attachments, while the second is a much shorter piece with some specific suggestions for first time users. With all that awesome info out there, what could I possibly have to add to the plethora of reviews, interviews, and articles?
Well, the ‘review’ section of this post is actually gonna be pretty short. In fact, it’s gonna be so short I’ve decided to craft it as a haiku:
Well crafted sex toy
Powerful betwixt my legs
Loud like crashing waves
Continue reading 'Review: Original (Hitachi) Magic Wand (with bonus discussion of post-op orgasms and sex graphs)'»
This past Saturday the University of Chicago held a one day symposium that “that facilitates dialogue between academics, artists and activists working broadly on the politics and practices of trans* representation.” The day was divided into three parts: First, a panel titled Sociological Approaches to Trans* Representation, which was made up of academics. Then, a panel titled Artistic and Activist Approaches to Trans* Representation, which was made up of activists and artists. Finally, there was a screening of the documentary Kate Bornstein is a Queer and Pleasant Danger, followed by a discussion with Kate and the filmmaker Sam Feder. I was only able to catch the tail end of the first panel, but stayed for the second panel and the film screening/discussion. I’ve written up some summaries and panelists quotes below along with a few of my own thoughts. Continue reading 'Thoughts on Representing Trans*: A Symposium at U of Chicago'»
Note: I’ve worked with Julie Lipson, the therapist in question, at Camp Aranu’tiq for years and have nothing but good things to say about her. I don’t have personal experience with her work as a music therapist, but I’m sure it’s amazing.
Trans* and Genderqueer Music Therapy Group
A unique group where participants will explore:
-building confidence within the self and with others
-reclaiming parts of the self that have been hidden or lost
-experiencing the group as a mirror and sounding board
-reconnecting mind and body
Sundays, 10:30 am-12 pm, Dates TBD
Sensory experiences can lead to a deeper understanding of your inner
self and creative potential. No musical experience necessary. Sliding
scale fees are available.
This 5-week series will be led by board-certified music therapist,
Julie Lipson, MA, MT-BC.
For questions or to register, please contact Women’s Therapy Center at
215-567-1111 ex. *812 or Julie Lipson at
[email protected] For more information on Inner Rhythms Music check out www.InnerRhythmsMusic.com
One of the many reasons I like having a blog is that it gives me a platform to talk about sex. I’ve attempted to define feminist porn, I’ve reviewed sex toys (albeit not for a while – stay tuned on that front), and I’ve bitched about 50 Shades of Grey. The comfort and experience discussing sex and sexuality that have stemmed from writing this blog were absolutely on my mind when I worked with Early to Bed to create a sexytime guide for trans women and our partners. (Stay tuned there, too – I’m working on revisions and updates.) But I haven’t talked about sex much since December, and The Surgery. I don’t apologize for that gap (goddess knows I needed time to process) but I am conscious of it. And, as I’ve continued healing and masturbating and hooking up, I’ve been thinking more about myself and how my new and reconfigured body works. In particular, I’ve been thinking about sexytime communication, and how things have changed since The Surgery.
Pre-op, I intuitively assumed that there’d need to be a Talk with every new sexual partner. At the very least, there was an expectation of disclosure. Without getting too into the question of whether or not trans people are obligated to disclose their transness (and I think the answer is no, we aren’t obligated) I do think it makes things simpler to disclose. There’s less of a risk of physical or emotional violence, certainly. It also just removes a potential bump in the road: even if a partner is enthusiastic about sleeping with a trans person, they almost certainly have unconscious expectations about what’s going to be between a man or a woman’s legs. Not meeting those expectations may be surprising (even if it’s not bad) and I’d rather skip that kind of surprise when getting undressed with a partner. Continue reading 'Sexytime communication, pre- and post-op'»
Because the trans community can’t go fifteen minutes without talking about HRC…
Less than a week ago, I wrote a post about HRC President Chad Griffin apologizing to the trans community on behalf of HRC. If I may, I’m going to quote something I wrote in that post:
I expect to continue to view the HRC with skepticism. My dollars will still go, first and foremost, to smaller and more trans-specific organizations. My primary support as an activist will do the same. We cannot afford to be complacent, or to give the HRC any sort of free pass. But, near the end of the keynote, Griffin asks, “please continue to hold HRC accountable. Hold me accountable.”
So lets do just that.
Shortly after I published that, I was offered the opportunity to attend HRC Chicago’s 2014 gala. The invitation was utterly unrelated to my post – the ticket came through the Chicago trans activist community – but it nevertheless seemed timely. Chad Griffin would be speaking at the dinner. I’d be attending with other members of the Chicago trans community. And I’d have the opportunity to see what, exactly, HRC meant when it called for people to “celebrate the strides HRC has made toward achieving equality for our community this past year.”
Lets avoid any building of suspense: The “strides” the HRC was celebrating rarely included trans people, and the “community” was overwhelmingly white, cis, and male.
Continue reading 'Attending the 2014 HRC Chicago Gala, and an open letter to HRC President Griffin'»
As I’ve mentioned before, I’ve been working on a sex guide for trans women and their partners, titled Trans Women + Sex = Awesome. The current version is available for free online at Early to Bed. I’m trying to figure out what would make sense as a long-term home, as well as how to create a print addition. (Any suggestions on either of those projects is, of course, most welcome.) Earlier this month, Trans Women + Sex = Awesome was picked up by Autostraddle, which led to some awesome exposure, including a shout-out from Crash Pad on Twitter (squee!). One response, however, has given me the most food for thought, and I felt like it deserved more than 140 characters of consideration. Specifically, a post from Viva La Luna titled So You Can Fuck Us, What’s Next? // Going Beyond Sex With Trans Women.
For all the shit trans women experience as a broad community, Luna says, trans women of color (TWOC) have it even worse off. It would be stupid to argue with that position. Across every survey and study I’ve seen, TWOC are the most targeted group for hate speech, violence, and sexual assault, not to mention the most likely to suffer issues of homelessness and unemployment. We live in a racist society, and that racism is only made worse when overlapped with societal and interpersonal transphobia. But Luna draws upon her experiences to respond to Trans Women + Sex = Awesome and Mira Bellwether’s Fucking While Trans, and to bring race into how we discuss trans sex and sexuality.
I’m thrilled to have her voice in the conversation, and honestly embarrassed to admit that issues of race and racism had not crossed my mind while writing Trans Women + Sex = Awesome.
Continue reading 'Trans women, sex, and race'»
(I realize this post is slightly dated, as HRC President Chad Griffin gave his speech almost a month ago. Still, I figured that – like his apology – this post would be better late than never.)
Southern Comfort is one of the biggest trans conferences in the US, and the 2014 event took place earlier this month. The keynote speech was delivered on September 5 by Chad Griffin, the President of HRC.
The HRC, the largest LGB-and-sometimes-T political advocacy group in the US, has an…ahem…troubled history when it comes to the trans community. TransGriot has two in-depth pieces that go over the details, one from 2007 and a followup from 2013, but here are some key points:
- The HRC came out of the gay rights movement of the 1970s, which was pushing for mainstream acceptance, often at the expense of trans folks
- Elizabeth Birch (HRC Executive Director from ’95-’04) once said a trans-inclusive ENDA would happen over her “dead body”
- Since then, the HRC has consistently done a poor job of pushing for trans-inclusive ENDA legislation, even after Birch left
- More recently, the HRC asked a trans activist to take down their trans flag at a march
Needless to say, many – myself included – are skeptical anytime the HRC says they’re going to support the trans community. So why the heck would the president of HRC be delivering the keynote at a trans conference? Well, because he stood on the stage at Southern Comfort and apologized to the trans community, on behalf of the HRC, and pledged to do better.
Should we believe him? Even if we do believe his apology, should the apology change anything?
Continue reading 'HRC Apologizes to the Trans Community'»
I got an email about this and thought I’d share. I’ve heard nothing but good things about this documentary, and this seems like an awesome (inexpensive) way to see it and learn more about it.
Local bridge-building organization The Marin Foundation partners with Level Ground– creators of the world’s first faith-based LGBTQ film festival– to bring you the ONE DAY ONLY Chicago stop on the 2014 Level Ground Road Show!
One of the year’s most talked-about documentaries, Kidnapped for Christ - which won the Audience Award for Best Feature Documentary at the 2014 Slamdance Film Festival- to be feature presentation on Saturday, September 13th, followed by dialogue with director and producer Kate Logan.
Renowned film critic Josh Larsen, co-host of FilmSpotting, will lead a collaborative workshop exploring scenes from notable LGBTQ-themed films, and discussing how the art of cinema can foster empathy.
The evening will include a concert by award-winning musician Derek Webb, and local artists Hello Industry, followed by an evening reception sponsored by Lagunitas Brewing and Blackberry Market.
Continue reading 'Signal Boost: ONE DAY ONLY: Award-winning Documentary “Kidnapped for Christ” Comes to Chicago'»
Yesterday I received an email from Lilia Berkovich, a student at The Chicago School of Professional Psychology, asking for my help in finding trans research subjects. She wrote, in part:
I’m currently recruiting participants for my dissertation, which is a qualitative study looking at the relationship between gender identity and role models among transgender individuals. The purpose of my study is to explore transgender individuals’ perceptions of the manner in which their role models are related to the development of their gender identity. I plan on recruiting transgender individuals to participate in 60-90 minute long interviews.
Participants will be compensated for their travelling expenses, and provided with a 20$ Walgreens/Jewel gift card.
That’s honestly a cool topic, and one that deserves good study. At the same time, I’ve posted before about how I feel about these emails: I understand the importance of research around trans topics, but think that – far too often – researchers don’t give a lot of thought to the actual lived experiences of trans people before they craft their research projects. So, as I promised myself I would when faced with a request like this, I asked Lilia my four questions:
- How were trans people involved in the creation of this research project?
- How will trans people be involved in reviewing your conclusions?
- How will you ensure this research accurately captures the racial and class diversity in the trans community?
- How do you imagine this research will improve the lives of trans people?
Her responses, as well as contact info to participate (should you so choose) are below. Continue reading 'Signal Boost: Academic looking for trans participants in a study'»
About a year ago I purchased a Logitech Bluetooth keyboard for my Android tablet. The keyboard was totally acceptable – even pretty good – until the beginning of this past summer, when a few keys stopped working. I, being the savvy consumer that I am, went to look at their warranty page. Low and behold, I was covered by a three year warranty ensuring the product would be free from “from defects in material and workmanship.” So I filed a warranty claim.
Logitech and I went back and forth for a few weeks, them asking for the serial number, a copy of the receipt, all reasonable information for a warranty claim. At long last, they said….no. They said they would not be honoring the warranty because I had purchased the keyboard through Amazon, an “unauthorized reseller,” and the warranty didn’t apply. I asked that they please specify where in the warranty it requires purchasing from an “authorized reseller,” and they said:
The warranty is intended for authorized sellers and does not need to be shown on the the warranty policy.
The warranty is not transferrable and if the seller is not authorized, the warranty is not carried over to the second degree purchaser.
Classy. Continue reading 'Logitech can suck it'»